Peaceful morning, last one before Easter holidays begin tomorrow, cup of cinnamon dolce latte at Starbucks, The Times open in front of me…. All was good until I came across this piece by Alice Miles:
Natural birth! Hello? This is the 21st century
Hello? Hello?? HELLO???
Alice takes offense to the idea that the UK National Health Service (NHS) will be encouraging women to avoid medical intervention during birth. By 2009, the NHS plans to offer more birthing choices to women by recruiting more midwives and offering the option to have at-home, midwife-led, or consultant (doctor)-led births. And there’s something wrong with that?
When I gave birth in Japan, I appreciated my doctor very much. He provided excellent prenatal care and was very supportive during my long labor. But when it came time to push the baby out, he stepped aside and allowed the midwife to ease Stephen out carefully, slowly, and gently so that I could avoid an episiotomy as I had stated very strongly in my birth plan. What a fabulous partnership!
But Alice will have none of that. She went the planned Caesarean route because she wanted
…a predictable, pain-free birth (yes, I wanted it in the diary; anything wrong with that?) with a surgeon I had met and trusted, accompanied by lots and lots of drugs.
How nice for her.
Guess what, honey? All those drugs and a pain-free birth is just momentary denial. Childbirth and parenting are meant to be painful. It’s what makes you appreciate your children so much more. What’s worth doing in life takes effort and if you think that it’s possible to glide through childbirth, you’re sadly mistaken. Even if a c-section appears to be the tidiest way to go about giving life to children, it isn’t. And it’s wrong to tell women who’re considering their options that your way is the best.
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