Big Brother Knows Best
Posted by Cottontimer on 07 Apr 2006 | Tagged as: Parenting, Stephen
Stephen and I went to the neighborhood playground yesterday. About half an hour in, a small group of children from a childcare arrived. The youngest looked about three and the oldest around 10 years old. Not knowing who they were, Stephen and I were immediately on guard.
As we were rolling Stephen’s big glittery green superball down the slide, one of the children sidled up to get a better look. I was a little worried that he would snatch the ball out of Stephen’s hand, but I encouraged Stephen to let the boy take a look anyway. Surprisingly, the six-year-old gave it a quick look and returned it almost immediately. From that I could tell he was a nice kid and not a bully.
From then on, he took Stephen under his wing. They kicked and chased a soccer ball around, chatted about their daddies, and climbed on the jungle gym. I was impressed with the boy’s care and thoughtfulness especially considering the big age difference.
But I guess the boy has plenty of experience with younger kids because he has a younger sister of his own. Part of his gentleness might be because it’s in his nature and personality, but I think learning how to take care with a younger sister has a lot to do with it too.
So it made me wonder if Stephen will ever learn to be as caring if he remains a single child. I guess there are many ways of learning how to be considerate and to get along with others. But, having a sibling is one of those 24-hours-a-day neverending constant learning experience.
However it turns out for Stephen on the sibling front, at least I know there are kids out there who will set a fine example for him. Hope we’ll bump into Aaron again sometime.
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Examples tendered by contemoraries (and many times, those who become heros) tend to be integrated quite quickly. Unfortuantely, the children in day care that are the peers of my offspring tend to be quite agressive. This, unfortunately, necessitates schooling in the gentle arts by the Mrs and I.
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I don’t think younger siblings are nessercary, Raphael is always surprisingly gentle and kind with younger children, but if you want to help him learn these skills pets are a good substitute for other children. We have always had dogs and cats, and they are good at teaching that there is only so much man-handling one can take! I know that it’s not very practical in your situation, with an overseas move in a few years time, but then lots of contact with children of all ages will help. A friend with a baby would be handy!
mdmhvonpa: Try as we might, the peer group exerts more influence. I don’t even want to think about their teen years!
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I’m glad you left a comment so now I can visit your blog too. Will pop over soon.
Snowy: Good idea! I think we might be due for a hamster in the future.